On Noodles & Broccoli
I feel like when I get into a serious relationship with someone, I make compromises and concessions of my own volition in order to please the other party. This is all done without them specifically asking (or even hinting) me to do them. I just feel like I should do it. And guess what? Over a long period of time, resentment builds up on my part, which becomes explosive for the other party. And they don't actually understand fully why things are that way.
It's my fault for trying so damn hard and consequently sacrificing myself unnecessarily along the way. What a terribly vicious cycle, right?
Going forward, I will not assume that I'm doing them a favor by doing or not doing something. My (future) boyfriend should be an honest and open communicator. So, for example, if he wants me to stop seeing other boys on the side, all he needs to do is ask! Until then, I'll be leading my life as I see fit.
Well, at least with big things, I stay true to myself. For example, I would not have a baby just because the one I'm with wants to be a dad or something. That is a non-negotiable for me. However, the small stuff adds up, too, so I shouldn't let those things slide either.
And what's with the subject heading? Well, when Dima and I were together, I found out that he liked neither broccoli nor noodles. I love both. Sometimes even together. I found myself slowly weaning away from them because he didn't like them. Ridiculous, right? But that's how it was. And whenever I had a bowl of ramen, I'd feel like I was cheating on him or something. Ri-friggin'-diculous just reading that now, but in the moment, you don't realize your insanity. (:
It's my fault for trying so damn hard and consequently sacrificing myself unnecessarily along the way. What a terribly vicious cycle, right?
Going forward, I will not assume that I'm doing them a favor by doing or not doing something. My (future) boyfriend should be an honest and open communicator. So, for example, if he wants me to stop seeing other boys on the side, all he needs to do is ask! Until then, I'll be leading my life as I see fit.
Well, at least with big things, I stay true to myself. For example, I would not have a baby just because the one I'm with wants to be a dad or something. That is a non-negotiable for me. However, the small stuff adds up, too, so I shouldn't let those things slide either.
And what's with the subject heading? Well, when Dima and I were together, I found out that he liked neither broccoli nor noodles. I love both. Sometimes even together. I found myself slowly weaning away from them because he didn't like them. Ridiculous, right? But that's how it was. And whenever I had a bowl of ramen, I'd feel like I was cheating on him or something. Ri-friggin'-diculous just reading that now, but in the moment, you don't realize your insanity. (:
